Discipline to Promote Responsibility & Learning


Be Thankful for the Gift of Learning

During this Thanksgiving week, I like to take time to reflect on all the blessings I have in my life. One thing I’m always thankful for is the ability to continually learn and grow. As creatures of habit, we often find that learning a new way to do something is difficult simply because the new… Read More »

The Discipline of Persistence

One of the most important things we can teach children is that effective people persist. They don’t give up easily. In fact, a major quality that classifies people as gifted is that they stick to a task. What is it that allows a person to persevere? According to Art Costa (http://www.habits-of-mind.net), they have a repertoire.… Read More »

Move Away from Imposed Punishments

A parent contacted me about her 6-year old son. She was extremely frustrated because the youth does not pay attention at school and is distracting in class. She revealed that at home everything is fine. The boy’s teacher is also frustrated, so she gave him a behavior book, in which the teacher records the child’s… Read More »

Develop the Discipline of Positivity

Winston Churchill once commented, “The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. The pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity.” What do you typically see? The pessimist allows problems to rent cognitive space. But why think of problems when you can fill your head with solutions? How you respond to a new idea is an… Read More »

Teaching What Level A Behavior Looks Like to Young Children

Many teachers and parents have some reluctance to using terms like “anarchy” and “democracy” to describe the levels of the Hierarchy of Social Development, especially with young children. At first, I shared that reluctance. These terms seem so advanced, especially for youngsters in kindergarten and preschool. But the only reason they seem advanced is because… Read More »

Moving from Punishments to Discipline

A teacher recently contacted me and explained that the school she worked in was very entrenched in the idea that discipline = punishment. The students buy into this idea in that they seem to depend on punitive reactions from their teachers and parents. She wanted to know how to help the children move from being… Read More »

How to Live Responsibly

The Golden Rules for Living (author unknown) were shared with me. I share them with you. 1. If you open it, close it.2. If you break it, admit it.3. If you borrow it, return it.4. If you move it, put it back.5. If you unlock it, lock it up.6. If you turn it on, turn… Read More »

Develop the Discipline of Self-Reflection

Children learn by example. What they see you do on a daily basis is what they will do in life as well. Therefore, in order to promote responsibility in youth, all adults need to develop the discipline of self-reflection. Self-reflection focuses on looking inward—how to control passions, redirect impulses, restrain oneself from temptation, monitor one’s… Read More »

Resolve Sibling Fights

Siblings are prone to bickering and fighting. Sometimes, however, the fighting gets out of hand and becomes excessively physical. When this occurs, it’s common for each sibling to have a very different version of how the incident started, making disciplining either of them very difficult and unfair. As a parent, how can you stop sibling… Read More »

Points on Level C Behavior

A teacher new to the Discipline Without Stress methodology asked me a clarification question about explaining Level C behavior to children. As she said, “I have a hard time trying to explain to kids that this level is acceptable … BUT WATCH OUT … it might not be! This is what I’m not sure how… Read More »