Discipline to Promote Responsibility & Learning


Develop the Discipline of Self-Reflection

Children learn by example. What they see you do on a daily basis is what they will do in life as well. Therefore, in order to promote responsibility in youth, all adults need to develop the discipline of self-reflection. Self-reflection focuses on looking inward—how to control passions, redirect impulses, restrain oneself from temptation, monitor one’s… Read More »

Resolve Sibling Fights

Siblings are prone to bickering and fighting. Sometimes, however, the fighting gets out of hand and becomes excessively physical. When this occurs, it’s common for each sibling to have a very different version of how the incident started, making disciplining either of them very difficult and unfair. As a parent, how can you stop sibling… Read More »

Points on Level C Behavior

A teacher new to the Discipline Without Stress methodology asked me a clarification question about explaining Level C behavior to children. As she said, “I have a hard time trying to explain to kids that this level is acceptable … BUT WATCH OUT … it might not be! This is what I’m not sure how… Read More »

Living is an Art

I came across the following advice that I shared in my newsletter over a decade ago. Its message is still applicable today. And while it requires much self-discipline to practice it, the rewards are worth it. Living is an art, and we have a responsibility to enjoy it. An artist cannot be continually wielding the… Read More »

How to Deal with Students Who Lie

Lying is a common source of discipline problems in schools. Often, students lie to protect/defend themselves. Regardless of the reason for the lying, teachers want to know how to stop it from occurring. A foundational characteristic of the Raise Responsibility System is that the deed is separated from the doer, the act from the actor,… Read More »

Making Change Less Difficult

When teachers and parents first learn about the Discipline Without Stress approach, they are eager to give it a try. But as with any change in life, they soon think that changing their teaching, parenting, or discipline style is too difficult. In reality, change of any type is not difficult; it just feels difficult because… Read More »

The Discipline of Happiness

Have you noticed that many parents, teachers, and students these days seem unhappy? Have you also noticed a rise in classroom discipline? Does unhappiness cause students to act out and adults to respond with traditional and ineffective discipline techniques? Well, I assert that we all have a moral responsibility to be happy. We owe it… Read More »

Classroom Discipline and Inappropriate Language

It seems that in today’s world, many classroom discipline issues revolve around students using foul language. If you’ve ever dealt with this problem, you have likely realized that traditional discipline techniques do virtually nothing to stop it from reoccurring. Therefore, here’s what I suggest teachers do. First, discuss the words “appropriate” and “inappropriate.” For example,… Read More »

Get Students Interested in Learning

One major source of classroom discipline is dealing with students who have no interest in learning. In their frustration, many teachers resort to implementing rewards (bribes) to gain students’ attention, or they use imposed punishments (detention, extra homework, etc.) in the hopes that the youth will take learning seriously. Here’s a better approach and one… Read More »

5 Tips for Improving Your Relationships

Here are five suggestions for improving relationships—with youth and adults alike. First, give affirmations. A simple acknowledgement can have dramatic results. This is especially important with young people. They want to assert their independence and autonomy. Just acknowledging that you have heard their point of view, regardless of agreement, can have a profound effect on… Read More »