Discipline to Promote Responsibility & Learning

Promote a Positive Mindset in Youth

One of the great approaches to successful living is to develop the art of prompting positive mindsets. For example, suppose I lay a plank on the ground. Almost anyone could easily walk on the plank from one end to the other. But if I were to raise the plank 20 feet off the ground, how… Read More »

Control versus Influence

Are you focused on controlling youth or influencing them? If you experience much stress when interacting with children, chances are that you are trying to control them. Because controllees have low motivation to carry out decisions IMPOSED on them, as scores of research have documented, enforcement is both difficult and time-consuming. This is very evident… Read More »

Reflect on Your Daily Choices

Are you acting REFLEXIVELY or REFLECTIVELY? Consider this scenario: You are at home and the telephone rings. You answer it. Assume for a moment that you are NOT familiar withchoice-response thinking (something discussed at length in various blog posts). If I were to query you why you answered the phone, most would say, in one… Read More »

The Best Question to Encourage Learning

Asking, “Why?” is an INeffective question when it relates to behavior. For example, the answer to asking a young person, “Why are you doing that?” will prompt answers such as, “I don’t know” or an excuse, such as, “I have ADD.” In contrast, asking a student, “Why are you LEARNING that?” and receiving a similar… Read More »

Stop Trying to Control Youth

When parents and teachers first learn about the Discipline Without Stress methodology, they often ask me, “What sort of consequence would a child with level ‘A’ (Anarchy) behavior receive?” The answer to this is in a prime difference between Discipline Without Stress and other approaches. Whether the consequence is referred to as logical or natural,… Read More »

Positivity and Your Future

Did you know that as we grow older, our character traits become more ingrained? It’s true. In fact, they become even more pronounced. For example, a sweet person becomes sweeter, while a disagreeable person becomes a real crank in old age. So what does this mean for you today? It means that the attitudes and… Read More »

Remove Barriers to Help Youth Achieve Goals

We all want our children and students to achieve goals in school and in life. To help, many adults pressure children to do things (e.g. fill out that college application, do your homework, practice the piano, etc.). However, a better approach is to remove barriers to achieve goals rather than pressure people to achieve them.… Read More »

Positivity Promotes Responsibility

Positivity (conscious optimism) induces responsibility. For everyone, including children, a positive attitude begins between the ears. In fact, the most important thing people can control is their state of mind. A state of mind is something that one assumes. It cannot be purchased. It must be created. Therefore, thinking and acting responsibly (or irresponsibly) begins… Read More »

Criticism versus Positivity

We are all guilty of offering criticism to others, even if we disguise it as “constructive” criticism. But think about it: Why would people want to hear criticism from someone else? Criticism promotes negativity, rather than positivity. Criticism puts a person on the defensive and usually prompts the person to justify the actions. It is… Read More »

Striving for Perfection

We’ve all heard the expression, “Practice makes perfect.” It’s something many teachers and parents have touted to children for decades. However, the problem with that thinking is that perfection is often not possible. And striving for something unattainable sets people up for failure. Of course, this does not mean we shouldn’t have high standards for… Read More »