Discipline to Promote Responsibility & Learning

Guided Choices in the Classroom

In the Discipline Without Stress methodology, Guided Choices are used when a student has already acknowledged level B behavior and disrupts the lesson again. The most effective approach is to ELICIT a consequence or procedure to help the student help himself to avoid future unacceptable behavior. This should be done in private by stating, “What… Read More »

Discipline and Emotions

Why do you think young people misbehave? When I ask people this question, most say that it’s because the youth don’t know any better, have had poor role models in life, or just because—no reason at all. The fact is that young people misbehave because it makes them feel good; otherwise, they would not misbehave.… Read More »

How to Accept Constructive Criticism

If you believe that life is growth and that people should strive to grow both intellectually and emotionally, then you need to accept comments by others (oftentimes called criticism) as being in your own best interest. Accepting such comments with a positive spirit depends on two criteria: (1) You trust the person and understand that… Read More »

Satisfaction vs. Happiness

Many people think that satisfaction brings happiness in life. In reality, it’s the positive people, not the satisfied people, who are happy people. Happy people are pleasant to be around. Being around people you enjoy improves your own disposition and desire to put forth effort. Being positive should not be confused with satisfaction. Telling someone… Read More »

Emotion and Learning

Whenever I share the Discipline Without Stress methodology with teachers and parents, they often ask me, “What is it that makes your approach so successful?” My response is that I think of how the brain and body are so interrelated that one affects the other. Therefore, I think of how the brain and body react… Read More »

Your Words Influence Behavior

We often want to assist people by telling them what to avoid. Upon analysis, however, you will discover that so often when you tell a person what to avoid, the opposite results. The reason is that the brain does not envision “don’t” or any other negative-type word. The brain envisions pictures, illusions, visions, and images.… Read More »

Learning Should be Fun

When turtles are born, they know everything they need to know to live for 50 or so years. Since learning is one of the joys of living, I don’t think turtles have very much fun. Learning brings growth, and both the process and result of learning can be enjoyable. Watch anyone at any age who… Read More »

Listening Fosters Positive Relationships

If you ask yourself how you know someone cares for you, one of your responses is likely to be that you know because the person listens to you. Ask a husband about a good wife, and he is likely to say that he knows his wife cares for him because she listens to what he… Read More »

How to Teach Troubled Youth

At some point, every teacher will have troubled youth in their class. These students may appear reluctant, apathetic, and/or disengaged. When working with these students, patience is critical, and building relationships is the ONLY way you will have success. These students trust no one, and it will take time for them to truly understand that… Read More »

Promote a Positive Mindset in Youth

One of the great approaches to successful living is to develop the art of prompting positive mindsets. For example, suppose I lay a plank on the ground. Almost anyone could easily walk on the plank from one end to the other. But if I were to raise the plank 20 feet off the ground, how… Read More »