Discipline to Promote Responsibility & Learning


Dr. Marvin Marshall’s Blog

Developing Effectiveness in Students

When I present to a school or school district, or when my In-House Seminar Package is purchased, the client receives a 100-page Resource Guide. In it, I share one of my favorite stories. I share it with you here. Nicolo Paganini (1782-1840) is still considered one of the greatest violinists of all time. One day, as he was about to perform before a sold-out house, he walked out on stage to a huge ovation but felt that … [Read more...]

Control versus Discipline

If you want to become a more effective teacher, then give up the need to control students. In other words, hand over to the students the responsibility of LEARNING TO CONTROL THEMSELVES. This is important for every child but especially important for those children who have repeated discipline challenges. The key is to use the Raise Responsibility hierarchy ALL the time so that it isn’t associated with corrective … [Read more...]

Discipline versus Obedience

Sometimes teachers contact me explaining that they have one student (or more) who will not respond to the Raise Responsibility System (which is detailed in the Discipline Without Stress book) and who often have repeated discipline challenges They wonder if there is something different they should do to encourage that student to understand the system or if they need to change how they implement the strategies in the … [Read more...]

Positive Conversations

During this holiday time of year, many of us visit with family and friends—some of whom we may not have seen in months. As you converse with these people, here is a suggestion to keep in mind: When you deal with family, loved ones, close friends, and other valued people, don’t begin a new conversation with the baggage from the last one—or even think about it. If you do, one incident or perceived slight can adversely … [Read more...]

Punishment versus Discipline

The number one question I receive from people is this: “Can you give me an easy way to explain to someone the difference between punishment and discipline?” Here is the easiest distinction—one that is simple for most people to understand and remember: PUNISHMENT is what is done TO a person.DISCIPLINE is what is done FOR a person. For more information, please read the top Myths of Discipline. … [Read more...]

Honesty and Discipline

My late mother-in-law used always to say, “Be careful of asking for someone’s opinion. The person may give it to you.” Realize that if someone asks you for your opinion and if the person perceives that your comments are derogatory, there is a problem. It doesn’t matter if your opinion is based on fact and logic; all that matters is the other person’s perception of what you said. This is true whether interacting with an … [Read more...]

Be Thankful for the Gift of Learning

During this Thanksgiving week, I like to take time to reflect on all the blessings I have in my life. One thing I’m always thankful for is the ability to continually learn and grow. As creatures of habit, we often find that learning a new way to do something is difficult simply because the new way is different. But I try to use the past as a guidepost, rather than as a hitching post. In fact, I think the greatest … [Read more...]

The Discipline of Persistence

One of the most important things we can teach children is that effective people persist. They don’t give up easily. In fact, a major quality that classifies people as gifted is that they stick to a task. What is it that allows a person to persevere? According to Art Costa (http://www.habits-of-mind.net), they have a repertoire. These people have many different ways to solve a problem. Why is this important? Because if … [Read more...]

Move Away from Imposed Punishments

A parent contacted me about her 6-year old son. She was extremely frustrated because the youth does not pay attention at school and is distracting in class. She revealed that at home everything is fine. The boy’s teacher is also frustrated, so she gave him a behavior book, in which the teacher records the child’s behavior for the day. The boy brings that book home each day, and if any negative behavior is noted, he is … [Read more...]

Develop the Discipline of Positivity

Winston Churchill once commented, “The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. The pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity.” What do you typically see? The pessimist allows problems to rent cognitive space. But why think of problems when you can fill your head with solutions? How you respond to a new idea is an example of what you put in your head. Do you immediately dismiss it? Do you see it as … [Read more...]